HE HEARS, BUT DOESN’T LISTEN.
“Why won’t he just listen to me?”
Men typically tend to converse with her logically. Looking to problem solve. While women, usually, crave a connection. They want to be felt. I help him fuse his logic, with his feelings, which quickly, and deeply creates mutual understanding.
It’s not fair
Feel it’s one-sided?
“She just doesn’t get it.”
Men generally want to communicate a point. Oftentimes, the message may be logically clear, yet, emotionally void. Which leads her to be confused, with him frustrated. I help men develop the key words that percisely gets “through to her.”
Constantly arguing with no progress?
It all starts with the thoughts that we bring into the relationship. If we agree that we are not perfect, then how can our thoughts be perfect? Deeply questioning and rethinking thoughts directy minimizes misunderstandings and gradually creates lasting change.
Aren’t you two supposed to be one?
How can BOTH be happy as ONE instead of as individuals while together? There is a way to be ONE without losing one’s self in the process. I teach you how.
How I help.
Just 7 months after my wife and I got married, we were separated for 4 years. However, not in the way you may think. We remained together, but, were separated by thousands of miles. I was in the United States, and she was in St. Lucia. Two different countries. Imagine how much of a challenge that is for married couples. Especially, newlyweds. When all you have is communication. However, our faithful, loving God, did use that situation to deeply hone our communication skills. I want to share what I’ve learned during that time to help couples work through communication problems that commonly happen. Problems that usually happens regardless of how long you have been married. It really really, and truly starts with our thoughts. With a mixture of spoken word poems, and speeches grounded in God’s word, I aim to directly confront the strongholds plaguing God’s design for marriage.
“I used to really be judgemental. Felice helped me see how that affected my communication with my girlfriend. And why she stopped sharing things with me. Unfortunately, I found this website AFTER my relationship ended. At least I know now.”
“So what I used to think its smarter to be more logical than emotional. Emotions are dumb. That’s what I thought. Now, I still think they’re dumb, just not completely. lol. He’s still working on me. Took me years to get to that point. He pretty good at getting you to question your thoughts.”
Christian. Poet. Apologist.
I have no living blood relations in this world that I know of.
November 28, 1996 my mother died of HIV. I was twelve years old. Less than a year later my grand-uncle died of Diabetes. Quickly picture that. Now, honestly imagine how a story like that truly, and deeply gets one to really really care about relationships.
For over 14 years I found myself, and expressed my findings as a spoken word poet. Guess what the theme of my poetry was? You got it…relationships. Now, my spoken ministry continues through a different medium. Public Speaking.
I have been married nearly a decade,(feels like 20 years since me and my wife was in a long distance relationship for 4 years) and me and my wife will say that we are truly best friends. Perfection is the goal, but it isn’t practical. With flaws and all we embrace the trials and tribulations that has strengthen our marriage.
As for my Faith. I am a Christian. By, the Grace of God. I became a Christian through my wife’s Father. He had been a Pastor for over 10 years and he patiently answered many questions I had about God, Faith, and Christianity. He was the first person that did it in a very Hermeneutical way. By God’s Providence that fueled my passion as an Apologist. (1st Peter 3:15)
There is nothing I enjoy more than tearing down the strongholds plaguing our Christians.
Given the opportunity I would get a degree in Christian Apologetics. Until the VA deems that as a worthy “marketable” pursuit , i’ll be using GI bill to get into the education field, and digital video technology field.
Follow me on instagram @thoughtsquestioned
“Lessons are taught when we question our thoughts.”
Nearing a decade of LOVE.
To God be the glory.